Originally Posted by Olderwoman
I don't think my views on marriage are important or relevant. (I admit I am anti-marriage.)
What is not clear to me is how polyamory and marriage are compatible. That is, if polyamory is about long term "love" relationships -- and not just a term for a couple deciding to have multiple sexual partners outside of their marriage.
Simple: marriage can be redefined by the two individuals in it just like anything else. Having multiple "love" relationships doesn't have any automatic meaning for a married couple. Just as having a single love relationship doesn't automatically imply marriage. A marriage doesn't have to devolve, breakup or whatever because of multiple loves.