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Old 01-01-2011, 10:49 PM
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Originally Posted by UntamedHottie View Post
. . . I was informed Im not allowed to see others unless I love them...tried to tell him only as a friend but not as a lover....he says NOPE you cant see them then.
Being told with whom I am "allowed" to hang out would simply be unacceptable to me. What kind of crap is that? I choose my friends and know best who is good for me and whom I wish to have in my life. Your bf appears to only have his own best interest at heart, and doesn't seem to care enough about you. Can you really live with being dictated to, in that way? Also, I think it would benefit you to examine why you find a married man who is cheating and lying more amenable than someone who is open and poly. If there is any common thread in what you're written about here, it would seem to have something to do with your self-esteem and the kind of treatment by others you feel you deserve.
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