Some people struggle with DADT eventually as sometimes love happens and change comes with it. I know I have changed immensely since being with Mono. There is no hiding it. I am a different women, yet the same... this happens with most loves I think. As long as your man is ready for that possibility then I would think you are good to go.
The other thing that seems to happen sometimes is that the connection is lost between a couple that has a DADT. If you can find a way that keeps you connected then you should be good. It sounds like sex isn't it, but maybe there is something else? Otherwise it can become really hard to have the desire to stay and not leave for a lover who can offer everything in your marriage and sex.
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