Yes, things are indeed going well. We've both increased our level of comfort, both with where things are, and where they are going, and in expressing our feelings and needs about that.
Since we're practicing a hierarchical form of poly, there have been a lot of things to work through, and we're doing that. We understand that we may be in different places, and that's okay. I'll be pursuing some personal growth opportunities to help, specifically getting into therapy. Better understanding my own needs, and working on issues with both attachment and individuation will only make things better.
I was having some serious issues with the NRE, as LM stated, and making some proactive interactions really helped me to understand what she was experience. She described it at the pre-NRE, which I think is a great way to think about it. I've kind of been thinking about it in a geekier scientific way, as NRpE, or New Relationship potential Energy. Potential new relationships, but also the concept of potential energy. It hasn't been realized, but it's there and I can see how it could play out in action. It's when one or the other of us gets into Kinetic energy that the next stage of feelings will kick in . . .
Truly though, we've never been closer or more connected at any point in nearly 17 years together. I've been embracing those counter-intuitive notions that seem to be part and parcel to this way of thinking. You have to let go to get closer. It's pretty powerful, and I've definitely gone through periods of euphoric giddiness . . . I've also cried more in the last two weeks than I have in my 37 years on this planet. And that's good.
I could go on and on and on, but I'll stop for now. I'm excited for the connections that LM is building, and excited for the connections that may work for me. We'll definitely keep you posted!