You and I think in very similar ways. =] I've had those same experiences trying to get mono partners to try out poly. This was before I actually knew what poly was exactly. They never did for the same reasons. I think a lot of it is to do with the way they are brought up. People make them feel like multiple relationships are such a bad thing. But you're right, it is completely natural and the way things should be.
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