Isn't this moving a little quick? From going from a completely monogamous mindest to having the OSO move in and you starting to date?
I would probably say to take it slow for now as the lifestyle change for you is the most dramatic and not for your wife.
Just seems odd to me that your wife would be so enthusiastic from the start of this less than two weeks ago to going into protective mode and equally as odd that you have made this transition from being devistated to completely embracing the new lifestyle.
That would be something to address before moving on anything regarding your situation.
Sorry for this being my first post.