Originally Posted by Tonberry
I don't know why it is that way, and I don't see it as a problem that needs to be fixed. So I don't feel a need to work on it. I don't feel that I need to have sex with more people, or without an emotional connection. I don't think it's inherently wrong or anything like that, but I think it doesn't work that way for me, and that's that.
Sorry if my challenges to beliefs/concepts got you in a defensive position. It's been a great discussion ! It's nothing about any individual - just a call to challenge any assumptions and where they came from and what impact they may have.
I like that - when someone asks me questions like that - because it's enlightening to have to sit back and retrace where some of our beliefs & assumptions got started or anchored. It can be like someone pointing out you are still carrying your umbrella 3 days after the rain stopped
It's like..........hmmmmmm, you're right ! Sheeshhhhhhhhhhh
You're happy with where you are and it's working for you. Wonderful ! All that matters.
For those still trying on/out different modes it's good to see as many options as possible. Gotta luv it.
PS: the bathroom analogy.....can't make the connection. But if I had to think that through I'd have to say I'd want to get comfortable with a public dump when appropriate/necessary. Hiking through the flat desert in a group can call in demands that have to be met. Hate to shit my pants out of fear and embarrassment and actually makes things WORSE for the remainder of the trip !