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Old 12-29-2010, 07:01 AM
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Originally Posted by Lucidius View Post
MindfulAgony, I was worried it was manipulation... there is a pattern in the whole relationship which that fits.
Maybe thats the difference. I know I'm always going to be with me. Now how do you impart that concept to someone without being preachy? lol
You can't. This takes tons of self-reflection and guidance (therapist or the equivalent trained or insightful questioner) typically. My experience tells me that someone as you describe is getting too much of their own self-worth or self-esteem via the relationship. And, as a result, aren't going to respond effectively to your telling them that.
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