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Old 12-28-2010, 09:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Tonberry View Post
I thought of a good comparison earlier today: going to the bathroom with the door open. If it's someone you already trust and you do it, it has the result of your feeling "we don't have anything to hide from one another: even that, which is super intimate, we can do in front of one another". If it's a total stranger, it feels like an intrusion of your privacy and you feel less comfortable with them afterwards. If it's a friend, it might still have the same result. You need a high level of trust for the experience to make you closer rather than turn you away from one another or creating awkwardness.

I don't know why it is that way, and I don't see it as a problem that needs to be fixed. So I don't feel a need to work on it. I don't feel that I need to have sex with more people, or without an emotional connection. I don't think it's inherently wrong or anything like that, but I think it doesn't work that way for me, and that's that. Learning to have sex without an emotional connection is, to me, like learning to use the bathroom in public: not something that would take anything from me, but not something I really have any use for either.

and Neonkaos ;

' I don't mind taking a dump in front of my husband, but i don't really want to see HIM taking a dump, and I suspect the feeling is mutual. '

lmao. I had totally ADD`d on this thread, but this pretty much takes the cake.

Thanks ladies. AWESOME.
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