For me, condoms were/are mandatory.
I already have HSV-2, so protecting the *other* is more important even though W's never shown any symptoms.
But in terms of him with others - pregnancy was/is my main concern. I want more kids. I want to have another baby with him. And he's said no repeatedly. He's done.
Impregnating another would be a deal breaker for me. Not that it would happen on purpose - but birth control fails.
So for us - bareback is between only us. No one else.