I consider Maca and GG primary to me, They both consider me primary to them.
Maca is poly.
GG is mono.
However, if one were to ask Maca he would say that as my husband-he comes first and if you asked GG he would say the same about Maca-that as my husband he comes first.
I don't see it the same way-which caused a LOT of strife between GG and I.
But-I think Mono has a valid point that as a mono in a poly relationship it may be helpful to consider it that way so that they can thrive in the relationship.
"Love As Thou Wilt"