I am new here, too, and struggling myself. I opened Pandora's box (just by actually thinking and talking about it, but not actually doing anything) and not sure how to close it. I can see a lot of possible good points to it, but a whole lot of negative as well (more as it pertains to each individuals emotions...and of course the big J word). This was not something I would have ever thought I would even consider...or show up on a board like this. People here are really helpful, though, as helpful as they can be for having transcended the usual issues already and not stuck where we are at ; ).