Originally Posted by redpepper
I have had bouts with PN where we have not had sex for up to three months. I have a lot of sex with Mono, everyday and some sometimes... It makes no difference to the amount of love I have. I also have a non-sexual boyfriend that I consider to be close and a girlfriend that due to circumstances I don't have tons of intimacy with. There are others on here that don't have sex with partners often because they have LDR's. The sex part in poly is kind of secondary. I don't know if you should be worried about it so much... if he is happy and you are and everyone is then you're good no?
Wow. Thats a STREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEETCH.
The inability to have physical sex is NOT secondary.
Not wanting sex is.
Big ol' difference.
@ OP : Define what you believe a 'partner' is. Is it romantic ? Is it people you can hang out with ? If it`s based in romance, and romantic love,..then you aren`t doing your former fiance any favours by being with him.
If it`s basis is on 'relationships in any form' and HE is also ok with that, then don`t feel guilty, carve your own path. Just make sure neither of you, are fooling yourselves.