Wow, that really sucks, dragonfly. I think (some) men in a poly relationship (my ex included) get all puffed up to be fucking 2 women and get inflated opinions of how big of a man they are, how they can satisfy two women, find enough time for everyone, and make it all work.
I hate that you pointed out the possible hazards in the relationship and he just brushed it all aside. And now the reality is just as you predicted! Argh!
Also, I recently had a guy say to me, I am sorry IF I hurt you, when I had said in no uncertain terms, he HAD hurt me. And that was a much lesser hurt than what your guy laid on you! Grrrr!
And you already started sharing their lives, kids, friends. And now this? What a bastard. You're well out of that relationship. *hug*
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)