Yes, we've discussed it at length, Neon. She's fine with the slow courtship and she's fine with the gf being there!
I'm the one that's weirded out by it. It's messing with my head. Messing with my ability to feel compersion, because this odd 3way-yet-not-a-3way feels alien to me.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)