Originally Posted by Erin
I don't mean any disrespect at all when I say this, but it sounds as if you are trying to map out her relationship with him. If she is okay with the other woman around, then that should be left for her to decide. Perhaps he is exploring the idea of unicorn/triad. I suppose if your gf was in a harmful situation, then you'd have every right to try to intervene or have the authority to provide your input. But so far their relationship seems harmless and flirtacious. Perhaps she is exploring the options of the other woman in the picture. It is hard to determine what is really said during their times together. When they do decide to have sex, it'll be for the right reasons and at the right moment. Until then, you have to trust the process. It is, afterall, about her, not you. And I don't mean to sound rude when I say that.
I don't think it sounded rude at all Erin. I agree. It is her who decides whether or not she wants this other woman there. It's good to let people out to do their own thing and just leave them to it. Like I said, if she comes to you asking for help, then you should feel free to give your advice and opinion on the situation. But it seems she is happy and having a good time right now. Let it be. =]