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Old 12-18-2010, 12:31 AM
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What is the next step when you've done all of the above but your SO still refuses to accept? Do you tuck your physical desires under the rug, cheat, or get a divorce?
I did options 1 and eventually 3. My ex and I finally opened our marriage up after 20 yrs of him knowing I was a flirt and bisexual. But we lacked knowledge about how to work being poly, and it was a disaster. For that and other reasons, we split.

Now at 55, I am living the poly life fairly successfully w a female primary partner who's been poly all her life, and it's great. She's brutally honest about her past sexual life and current needs and I am encouraged to be as well. It's work sometimes, but very rewarding, fun and sexy.
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