Originally Posted by SvartSvensk
One thing is for sure though, whether you're poly or not, you're not going to be happy unless you can share your feelings with your partner. That'll eat you away... communication is the bedrock upon which to build a stable relationship. I'm not sure how best to bring up the subject... perhaps discuss what's happened in the past, and talk about how you felt about her during that time...
SvartSvensk, You brought up interesting points. What is the next step when you've done all of the above but your SO still refuses to accept? Do you tuck your physical desires under the rug, cheat, or get a divorce?