Congrats VF you're a wonderful role model for mono guys in poly relationships. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas. It's neat that you're developing your relationship with your metamour.
We're doing well too although Z has already started his new job in Australia and so we won't be together for Christmas. He won't be with his SO either but he is staying with her sister.
I think that through this process of accepting polyamory I have become a much more emotionally independent person. I attribute this to Z's polyamory because I haven't been able to lay down my emotional well-being at his feet and expect him to meet all my emotional needs irrespective of his own. Loving him dearly without being too dependent on him is a very liberating feeling.