I've read Tolle's work and a lot of other spiritual stuff and have found it very helpful. My insecurities got out of control when I lost my spiritual grounding. I feel, in a way, like I failed some sort of test here and let fear rule my life in this matter rather than love.
I've got a poly-friendly counselor that i'm going to be talking with this afternoon. I'd like to get her input before I proceed further.