Originally Posted by WhatDoIDoNow
What would your idea be of something NOT to say to him? I am thinking about in terms of in your ex-wife situation. Is there something she couldn't said that would have made it easier to swallow for you?
I won't answer this simply because it is your responsibility to be straightforward in what you want. Something I may say "not" to say to him may be something you actually want. Don't shape the conversation to get what you want
, explain what you want accurately and see where that takes you.
Listen to JRM
about possible ways to broach the subject to get a feeling for how he will respond to actually being asked "officially" to explore poly. Then decide if it is prudent and worth it to proceed.