Originally Posted by whatamIdoing
The man needs therapy. I can't fix him.
This x 1000.
He needs someone who is not IN his life to put this into perspective. It does not have to be like this. He is doing nobody any favors by jerking you back and forth:
"Yes I want to be in the swinging lifestyle / No I don't want to be in the swinging lifestyle"
"Yes I want to get spontaneous blowjobs from my female friends / No I don't want to have sex with my female friends"
"Yes I want you to be yourself and have other relationships / No I can't handle sharing your attention with another man"
This is starting to wear thin on me, so I can only imagine what it must be like for you. There are trained professionals who get paid GOOD MONEY to make this bullshit their life's work.