Originally Posted by xianny
There's a selfish part of me that just wants to be involved, but really I just want to make the whole experience easier for them. It would make me happy to be able to help but I'd be OK if they just wanted me to disappear for a while. I also find myself caring about B even though I barely know her; caring by proxy I guess. Somehow I wish that we'd met at a different time so that I'd have a better opportunity to get to know her.
So... thoughts, advice, anything to help me navigate this period of time to produce maximum good feelings and a minimum of unhappiness?
So what would YOU value if the role was reversed ?
What would you offer to a friend ?
Your instincts (and heart) seem to be guiding you to do the right thing. Listen to it/them
Keep it real.