Your mileage may vary, but I meet guys on a dating site open to poly people (but we are in the minority). I say I am poly in my profile, so most men who msg me know it upfront. Some dont carefully read my profile, however, but I always let them know before the first date. I guess I lose some guys because of that, but better to let them know before we start caring too deeply for each other, is my opinion.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 58, living with:
miss pixi, 37, who is dating (NRE):
my bf: Ginger, 61, married to:
Robin, 60 (mono)
and dating (NRE): Carla and David, married couple, early 40s