Originally Posted by Sunshinegrl
I think for me personally that it was a bit of both. I loved two people before I even knew that it had a name. It felt natural..yet confussing for me. Confussing because of the "expectation" Of only being "allowed" to love one person. Yet I was able to love two people in and amazing way. It took time to process that it was "ok" even. Guess you could even say I tried not to be Poly. But failed. A Steak is still a Steak..even when dressed as a salad.
Have to say, I'm very glad you failed!
I think the fact that it felt so natural, so normal for me makes it less of a decision and more of just a realization that it's possible. Honestly felt a LOT like when I came out and realized it really was ok and I could be who I was. Society surpresses it so much you don't even know it's an option, so I never thought about it until I was already in the relationship.