Take a breath and realize that you are treading a path that others have before you. Start reading on here and see what you come up with. There are many good threads tagged and stickied for your reading enjoyment and education... not to mention numerous other sites that are good.
You have a lot of questions to answer for yourself and to get from the others. Start talking and figuring out what is going on for you in this. Ask questions here and to them. Slow right down and take steps to make sure that everyone is being respected and that you have a good foundation (as Fidelia suggested) before thinking of the future.
The main thing is to not jump to assuming and expecting from them or the situation. There is no reason to "name" yourself so much as to get a grasp on what is going on for all involved.
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