I like what Fidelia said; pay attention to your partners needs and then your own with this one. Talking about it with them can help, but it isn't always appropriate, so make sure you have your timing right or that you should be talking with them about it at all.
There is a lot of sucking up in poly... at least until later... it's part of good boundaries I think
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