Why she doesn't want to share the experience with the man who's name she is getting tattooed I don't know.[/QUOTE]
May be reading to much into this but... perhaps she is, in a concious/ deliberate symbolic way 'marking' herself in his presence the importance of her husbands significance in her life as an ever presence... Meant as a positive "ceremonial" involvement with her significant other. This way, even when she is with her significant other alone her husband is still 'with' her and in so being a positive (meaning good) part of their lives.
I suppose this could be taken in a bad way but I am thinking of it in a positive light.
But then Im a struggling mono trying to find terms and "ways" to help myself understand, cope and hopefully thrive with loving a poly.