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Old 12-01-2010, 09:30 PM
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It seems to me that you need to be very clear about what you want. When people are able to yank us around, it's usually because we have some uncertainty or doubts about something. If you want it to be NSA with J., then say so directly. If you don't want anything or anyone taking away from your time with B., stand your ground. If you are wondering what the hell J. means when he says stuff, ask him. If you want your men to try and make an effort at civility toward each other, let them know. Be the one who is strong and certain. Things can change later, but figure out what you want and take a stance now. Think of other areas in your life where you have an easier time being a strong woman, and know that you can be that strong in this situation. As long as either of them see you as wishy-washy, you will continue to get yanked around and stressed out.
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