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Old 12-01-2010, 02:45 PM
NeonKaos NeonKaos is offline
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To counter-point this, what we often see on here (a couple that is opening their relationship under the restrictions of searching for a mutual partner) - my husband and I made a conscious decision to NOT search for a mutual girlfriend. We're not even "searching" for ANYONE, either of us. He feels that we wouldn't be attracted to the same "type" of women (which made me laugh because he's attracted to ME and I'm not so unattractive even if I say so myself!), and my whole issue with it is that it's just silly to expect someone to be attracted to the both of us at the same time and pace. If one of us gets involved with someone else and THEN it leads to a triad-ish dynamic, that's ok, but I cannot imagine that we would have to pass up a good thing just because we aren't all "feeling teh looove" exactly the same.
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