I'm sure a lot of you have been there...
Where the new person you and your partner are dating realizes they don't have strong feelings for one of you like they do the other.
My husband and I have been actively researching and searching these days, and a few folks have come across our paths, giving us the chance to get our feet wet ya know?
Well we meet a 3rd girl, this time around it felt really different because her and I were so compatible, I was nervous because she had one drunken night with a women and that was it, I've had much more then that and hoped for a very close relationship with the girl that would join us.
Well we all text constantly and talk on the phone, then finally decide to meet up. It was a simple date, sitting in the park on a blanket, talking for a few hours before grabbing pizza and coming back home to watch movies for awhile, nothing at all sexual outside of a hug hello and goodbye.
Well that was Saturday, today she emails (ouch) and lets me know that she can't continue because she doesn't have the same feelings for my husband as she does me and it's not fair to either of us.
We decided early on that we wanted a third to share, not open our relationship on both sides.
So because of this I have to let go of the friendship aspect because it would be awkward, at least I think it would be.
We started things out with the idea that if all went well we would move forward along the poly path, we didn't meet at the grocery store by accident. So I dunno that I could be regular old friends with someone that I've openly thought about being more with. I would never be able to be 100% because I wouldn't want to give them the wrong impression.
Any way, I dunno why I let all that out there, just mulling it over.
Everything is a learning lesson so I appreciate the situation for that if anything.