I think that's what we're going to have to do,we're hoping to get together in january,both our schedules permitting,my work doesn't allow for holidays but I have a client flying in from the US in late January so I'm going to try and put together a birthday celebration for him then. I have a present organised for him and have already sent a present for the new baby,even though her mother and I don't get along. i think this is going to be a slow process due to the new baby and that I have to find ways of being more patient until that settles down...
In alot of ways I'm glad I don't live with him or have moved up there because it would have been too difficult to navigate the 'dislike' between me and the 'baby momma' at this point. I think we all need to be ready to sit down together and right now at Christmas,isn't a good time!