Only slightly related reply but :
Breathes and I, mostly I, are having a fun time arranging the Christmas family get togethers this year, lol. One family is Christmas Day, the other Boxing Day (day after Christmas) & we're currently unsure as to when the chosen family non-Christmas get together will be as I'm awaiting replies from a few people.
Is there any way you could arrange a different time for the two of you to get together for your Christmas?
There are as many ways to do polyamory as there are people practicing it!