I find this whole discussion very interesting. What I wonder is why we seem to think that just because we apply the label poly that the rules change? The majority of people, men and women, cannot be blindly trusted. If the majority of men you run across as a mono are pigs, why wouldn't it be true with poly? I see it like I see all relationships, slow and natural and steady is the way relationships should progress. Anything other is disingenuous and won't last. We always have to protect ourselves first and foremost from being taken advantage of. Unfortunately this is the way of the world.