I'll take a bit of a dissenting view. I agree that it's not black and white, and that some people are disingenuous .
But I would offer, that as a male who supports the poly practices and is committed to them .... most guys don't have the level of emotional depth women expect them to have. I have seen many of my friends...poly and not....constantly get into relationship issues because the just don't "get it". Again, not all of us...but enough to make the mix even more complex.
"Be gentle with each person you meet, for each of them is fighting a great battle.
St. Ephrem the Syrian b.306AD - d.373AD
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