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Old 11-29-2010, 03:21 AM
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I'm sorry that you're going through this. What he is doing doesn't sound much like poly to me. The two of you set boundaries and he broke them on more than one occasion. I think I can safely call that cheating. It is completely reasonable that you are having trouble trusting him. He broke your trust and you have no obligation to trust him until you feel secure that he will respect your boundaries. If he keeps up a cycle of breaking the rules and then apologizing I would seriously consider the implications. Everyone makes mistakes but acting like that more regularly is extremely hurtful and very disrespectful. One of the defining characteristics of poly is being open, honest and respectful. You decide with your partners where the boundaries are and it's up to you to follow them and adjust them as necessary. I am so sorry that your BF is not being honest and respectful to you.
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