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Old 11-28-2010, 07:03 PM
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It's not unreasonable to want a say in who comes into your living space. Without even the element of this relationship between them, you were invaded! If I were you I would stand up for myself and set boundaries for you to be respected. Such as, this person needs to make an effort to find a job and contribute. No job within a certain amount of time and he's out the door. And you need access to your computer. Your fiance is being very inconsiderate, you live there too. Home should be a sanctuary - if you're not comfortable there, where you gonna go? Just because there are feelings between them doesn't mean you have to become a charity.
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