Hi everyone! I'm not sure if this is where I should be posting my information or not, but I am hoping that someone can point me in the right direction if not. I have been dating a guy for two years now. We have both been married before and for two years prior to him dating me, he basically just had 'hook ups', nothing more. I am more of a relationship short of person, but am very open sexually and am very accepting of other types of relationships. He is very much a flirt and where he works is propositioned a lot by women just looking to have sex. He enjoys 'the chase', but has never done anything more with a woman other than heavy flirting. Over the past few months, I've come to realize that even though we have a fantastic sex life and get a long great that at some point he might want more than just flirting. I was reading an article about a basketball players wife that gives her husband permission for have one fling a year. I've started to wonder if I could do the same thing for my boyfriend. We have talked about having a threesome many, many times...I must admit I'm a tad bi curious and he just recently told me that if I wanted to get a girl on the side when he wasn't around, he would be totally ok with that.
I know this isn't really polyamory because he isn't looking to be in a relationship with anyone because I'm the only person he wants a relationship with and he's not even sure that he would sleep with anyone else even if I gave him permission, but I'm just trying to understand the various types of relationships and what goes into them so that at some point I can make a decision that is very sound. I go back and forth with the whole monogamy thing. Part of me thinks that if you're with someone that you get along with and have fantastic sex with then why be with anyone else; however, I also see where that's sort of old school thinking and I am far from old school. I'm not going to say that I don't wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. I enjoy the chase too, but I know that I'm more wired to be in a relationship rather than anything else.
I've been reading various things on these boards and have found people to be very informative. Again, I know this isn't a polyamory situation, but I'm hoping someone can give me some information to get me in the direction I need to be looking. Thanks