I'm so pleased to hear your story iThink. I'm glad its on this thread too because there are some useful points for all of us to see.
I particularly enjoy the similarities we have. I agree about what you say about arguements, making sure people have time, and giving space respect. Mono is really good at just listening to me vent about PN. The two men have never fought, yet. I will remember to not get involved to much if they do. I am finding that "me" time heals me and makes me sane in ways that nothing else could. It has been so important. Making sure Mono runs his own house, even though its our property, is very important to his sense of home and belonging to his space. I helped pick the paint, but he was always in control of what he wanted to do with his space. He still is.
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