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Old 11-25-2010, 11:27 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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I certainly wouldn't expect anybody with whom I've just become acquainted and with whom I have no involvement to meet my wife. Heck, I'm not even certain I'd want to romantically date the person at that point!

It's only after I've decided I'm interested in a serious romance that I want my wife to meet a potential partner. I have to find out if there's more to interest me than just the thing that caused the initial spark, then I have to spend a bit of time looking for red flags, then I can figure out if I want things to be more than a friendship. That takes a bit.

I'd suggest emailing/texting my wife prior to that, just so the other person knows my wife is OK with me meeting for dinner or coffee or some other dating behavior. I wouldn't expect a meeting with my wife until things got a bit more serious. If at that point the potential partner hadn't contacted my wife and refused a meeting, I'd be disappointed that it couldn't work out and move on with my life.
When speaking of various forms of ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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