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Old 11-24-2010, 12:27 AM
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Thanks for the responses so far.
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Originally Posted by Tonberry View Post
In my opinion, it's better not to get invested before you can make sure that everyone would get along.
But I'm not even talking about making an investment in someone more than just meeting them and getting to know them a little or, if it's something that starts online first, getting together to see if you're really even attracted to them or not. I totally understand meeting the SO if there's something we want to pursue, but I'm curious about diplomacy in the very beginning stages, before you even know whether or not you want to invest/pursue.
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