thought it was better to answer here.
Short answer, yes.
Maca can't possibly be a Dom to me when he can't commit to our relationship and keep his personal insecurities and fears under control (ie not being cruel just to get revenge for a fear he has).
So-no submissive for me.
I'm not HIS mistress. Don't want to be, and he wouldn't want me to be either.
"Love As Thou Wilt"