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Old 11-23-2010, 09:45 PM
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Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG View Post
Insecurity is not always the motivation behind a partner's resistance to poly.
I agree. My post was in response to this, which is what stood out for me:
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We have been together for five years. i have always been honest with him about my wants but he has always expressed a lot of insecurity . . . i am bending over backwards to make him feel secure
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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