Agreeing with Ari really. I have been to a lot of poly group meet ups and run a women's group in our city. I find that there is a sense of love, respect, empathy and commonality amongst members on the whole. When you get to know some people there it becomes evident who is a good match of values and descriptions of poly.
I made the mistake of thinking that my poly was everyone else's as I had been on my own with it for so long. It turns out that everyones poly is as diverse as we all are, which is why I fall back on values, and who I respect more.
I am finding now that the diversity aspect of it doesn't come into that at all. I respect and have similar values with people of all different types of diversity. This was my biggest lesson; to not judge a book by it's cover.
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