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Old 11-23-2010, 06:59 PM
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I believe there isn't anything one can do to make another person feel more secure. You can provide love and support, but their insecurities require inner work to do on their own. For your part, there is a difference between sacrifice and surrender. As long as he is unwilling to deal with his insecurities or try to understand your point of view and desires, you are sacrificing too much of yourself -- in other words, it is at your own expense. Walking away in a firm but loving way not only is a route to standing up for yourself but may be the shake-up he needs to look deeper into himself -- although you can't know or be responsible for how he takes it.
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