Originally Posted by FlameKat
A good example was when I first started figuring out I was poly - he made the comment that if something wasn't cool with my partner, then it shouldn't be cool with me...
Ultimately "footings" are independent structures uninfluenced by other people. They are essentially us with only ourselves..how we are alone, what we feel is right for us, what our fundamental character is and requires to be healthy. Foundations are more the stuff that take into account the needs and characteristics of others.