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Old 11-23-2010, 05:17 PM
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Default Going to poly events/happenings

Hi, all. So, I just signed up to attend a poly event in my city, and I'm a little nervous because I'm not sure what to expect. It doesn't sound like it will be focused on hooking up, being a holiday party, but I'm just wondering what it will be like (not that I'm expecting anyone here to tell me, but I'm just expressing what's going on in my head). The only poly people I personally know in real life are swingers, too (not my thing), and I'm wondering if they will be at the party, will it be awkward if I run into them there, and so on - sheesh, I feel like a teenager getting ready for a high school dance!

I also joined a Meetup group for poly and poly-curious women only, and although I haven't attended any face-to-face Meetups with them yet, I've reached out to them on their message board and found out another member is also attending the party I mentioned above (organized by another group) -- so at least I will be able to connect at the party with someone I've met online. I used to go out alone all the time when single, but after not having done that much in the course of 10+ years of monogamous marriage, I'm a little rusty at it.

I am looking forward to participating in the Meetup group, which seems to meet just once a month. According to their Welcome page on Meetup.com, it was specifically formed because: "At most poly gatherings, men outnumber women and typically dominate the conversation. The founders of our group saw a need for a group less focused on meeting potential dates and more on providing informed and sympathetic emotional support for our sometimes challenging lovestyle." The roster of members seems to include women who are curious and checking it out, as well as those having lived poly for a long time, so I have a hunch it will be a good local resource for me as I explore this relationship approach for myself.

I am curious to hear others' experiences at poly gatherings. Thanks...
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