I have definitely gotten some positive things out of loving a poly woman:
and the rest will be in no particular order
The motivation to serious look at how my heart and personal sexuality works:
-I understand and embrace my monogamous nature more than ever
-I fully understand the importance of sex to me and have placed it on an appropriate pedestal founded on my own values
Through the above understanding I have a more complete explanation as to why I hurt many people in my life.
-I have learned to communicate and process feelings much better and quicker.
-I have developed a very calm approach to things that do, can and will happen with relationships.
-I have been exposed to a community of greater diversity and acceptance than ever before.
-I have grown more secure in many ways regarding friendships that my partner has. Gender lines have disappeared in that friends are just friends
-I have become much more accepting as a human being.
Through Redpepper I have found family.