I am sure he wouldn't be uncomfortable discussing it at all. We are a very open and honest couple. I just feel I need to take his feelings into consideration, he has been with her for 12 years and I was only with her for 2 months. I just wish I knew the person she was before Iraq. He says that she is just a totally different person and is probably lost, not even knowing who she herself is. We are still friends, but it is difficult now, I am sure she isn't aware of how much I felt/feel for her. She isn't very open with communication and is a bit rough around the edges. It is also hard because she is around all the time, because they have 4 kids together and she comes over after work to be with them, that will change once the divorce is done though.