Originally Posted by Somegeezer
Sort of like... If they aren't ok with it, move on and find people who are? I suppose the earlier on you tell people about it, the easier it would be to still have a friendship out of it if the intimacy can't be there.
I have friends I am intimate with. One ex lover and one who is along time friend. Intimacy is a funny thing, its very personal. If you feel the need to be intimate, try it. You might find they don't want to touch friends, you might find they do.
The only way to find out is to try. Friends though might take years to get that comfortable without them feeling sexual pressure. As much as some of us can clearly discern the minute differences, some people seeing intimacy and sex as hand in hand.
If you are looking for a friend to be intimate with but not have as a lover, and still stay a friend. Thats a mighty fine line you are looking for.
I do find, being calculated about it, likely won't work.
Just let it happen naturally. But thats my take